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Becoming a Dominatrix
Becoming a Dominatrix I recently have had a couple different men who have told me they are interested in having me be their Mistress. Mistress as in BDSM, not as a sexual partner outside of an existing relationship they have with another woman or lover. I have had a fascination with some portions of the BDSM scene for a long while. Mostly the Bondage and Domination aspects but my earlier attempts to become a Dom or be subjected to Bondage didn’t inspire me to proceed. I clearly didn’t know what I wanted, or how to do it, so I failed to find enough satisfaction to continue. In fact, looking back at my efforts to be a Dom were total failures. The one time I try to Dom my Partner I used a Strap On that was too large. It caused him pain and I really didn’t want to hurt him. We never tried it again after that one experiment. As I said, my interest in Domination was rekindled after different men asked be my Slave. I even started corresponding with one and verbally humiliating him and making him do demeaning tasks. I realized that I was starting down the same path as before, not knowing exactly what was expected of me. Thru this site, I contacted a few Mistresses asking for help in learning how be a Dominatrix. One final agreed meet with me and give me some advise. We met for lunch last Tuesday at a small restaurant in Manhattan. Right away I was impressed by her confident attitude and smart appearance. You would never imagine her as someone who was a professional Dominatrix. As a matter of fact, anyone who observed us at lunch there was no way they could have guessed what we were talking about. We could have been friends taking a break from shopping or coworkers discussing a new Project. We could have even appeared as sisters discussing family matters. This had all the appearances of a Business lunch except we were talking about the Business of Dominating willing men. She, I promised not reveal her real name or her Professional name, was rather matter of fact in her answers my many questions. There was no emotion or hype in her answers, just guidance as how I should approach this new venture in my life. The first thing she told was that she never had sex with any man she was Dominating. The men she dealt with, her customers as she referred to them, were not expecting sex in a traditional way. They were there to be subjected to Humiliation, Pain or Anguish. Denying them sex was part of what they expected. They don’t even expect a Good Bye kiss. She stressed that it was extremely important to know exactly what the man wanted in advance of a Session with him. Similar to him being a customer in any other transaction. He knows what he want, you provide that service and everybody leaves happy. This is simply Role Playing she said. You, even as the Dominate one, are expected play the role he needs. She told me of one man who expects to be Diapered and after he wets his diaper to be spanked and scolded as if she was his mother. Dressing for the role is key to being what he expects. Different roles require different costumes to successfully play the role and to heighten his experience. Being a Dominatrix does not always required wearing skin tight leather and Tall Boots. You sometimes are asked to be a Nurse, a School Teacher, a School Girl, a Mother or even a Sister figure. Dressing for a particular role is paramount to being a Good Dominatrix. My name for this new role must be chosen carefully to compliment the role, or roles, I am aiming to fulfill. I’m giving this a lot of thought. I learned so much from her in an hour that I feel ready to give it another chance. Only this time, I will be better prepared. I’ll update this later after my first Session with a customer. Whenever it happens. Jan |
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You know, you are more than welcome to practice on me!!
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If You decide that's what You want ,let me know. I would be very interested. ..
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2/2/2020 12:48 am |
You are very sexy looking in that outfit!
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very sexy
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You are sexy, you have a very beautiful body that I want to suck your whole body I like the pictures very much with you, I woke up to you
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1/25/2020 10:43 am |
Such a fantasy for me to be dominated by a ts
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1/25/2020 10:21 am |
Amazing post, you just need to be comfortable and confident. Like myself it's about giving up my alpha mind set and my Domme to have complete control. You will be a great dominatrix Queen.
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1/25/2020 10:16 am |
You look great in that outfit but then, You look great in every photo I have seen of you. Personally I have no interest whatsoever in BDSM. I like the pleasurable aspects of sex. Being intimate with someone and giving and receiving pleasure and release. To each his own, right? Be careful and have fun.
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Very HOT!! And you look so sexy in that outfit!!
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1/25/2020 9:52 am |
Nice...
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