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Confessions of an Ugly Duckling
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My mother was like that as well.... Neither of my parents had the want or ability to be good parents. I knew early on that she'd only gotten pregnant with me so he would marry her. When the marriage fell apart her hatred of me surfaced. I've only seen my dad a handful off times since I was 9, but it's ok. I learned from them how not to be. Elevate me... 
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2/7/2021 2:27 pm |
My mom told me I was an ugly child when I was born! Please become an Apollo602021 blog follower!
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Pictures of all of us when we were young look different . They look different as we had a different mindset back then, we look at them now and see it different. A waste! To waste such youth on the inexperienced. As you grew older you understood what beauty was, it is not only the color of your hair , the texture of your skin but the total package. That one as real people see you. Some people think that one has to be of a "Barbie Doll shape to be beautiful, Far from this is real beauty. The inner beauty out shadows most of some ones physicals features that you see as a negative. Just Smile, your grandmother wasn't wrong, she just didn't understand what a beauty queen can be.. And by now you should know guy don't look at ugly girls, It is the beauties that catch our eyes.. Hope you are well , have a good and just be safe.. Stop by at lonlyforlove2 also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker" also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'
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I don't see an ugly duckling ... That post took some courage.
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Hmmm... 😊 Cute! 👍 Having seen your ADULT pics, I think you're doing fine... REALLY fine! ❗❗😎🌹 Although... did you know that ears and noses are the two parts of your body that NEVER stop growing? 🤔
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I'm gonna tell you, if you catch a guy looking at you it isn't because you're ugly or poorly dressed, it's because he is wanting you. One glance at an unattractive woman and our attention moves on. My son had monster size ears as a child, but he grew into them. Look at her ears! That baby has big ears! She should marry Pinocchio!!!! My poor Spawn... Lol
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It looks like you have green eyes, always a great combo with red hair
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I see a little girl who is beautiful.
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You look just Ducky, Lovely 
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You were adorable. I'm sorry your grandmother didn't tell you that.  My mother told me my father left because he couldn't stand my red hair. That I was so ugly he refused to take a picture with me, so there are none. Can you imagine? These adults should realize the havoc they wreak with us. With love from a fellow ugly duckling.
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You look cute as a button in that photo  This is me at 5 years old: [image]
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I enjoyed your narrative Secret_lade as I felt the same way for many years as I was not what I would call a 10 in everyone else eyes and my parents did not bring us up with the latest clothing line, top brand name shoes, latest records, video games or the latest greatest tv, radio cable tv or high school spring breaks to Florida. They were conservative, not in style and thus we as kids were not either. I thought for years I was as well a duck. Though I did not care if I dated or not in high school, I look back and think I probably would not have had one if I wanted one with my insecurity of feeling like my looks and lack of new latest greatest clothing would attract no one to me. Later in college I found that my looks were not so bad to others as I aged and I did manage to go on dates and found more confidence in myself. Like you were saying about your appearance changing while getting older as we all do ( though your school photo does not show a duck to me as I think it is a nice photo ) My personality shined though and I had flocks of people wanting to be my friend and women even started approaching me in my 30's. I now have a confidence to know that I may only be average looking to some, a high 8-10 on some other peoples scales but when I engage in conversations with others they see a more mature me, I don't think looks are all they see anymore. As with most everyone, I am sure that your knowledge and wisdom shine though more then you know and that is also a big part of what others will see ... how you carry yourself, how you act, your kindness toward others or lack of, your human empathy or lack of, how you treat others and how you would want others to treat you. I know for myself even though I have not dated in a few years a person I would want to find for a one on one or a long term relationship does not have to be a 10 on the outside but sure has to have a good heart to be with me. Maybe I got off track there rambling but I felt my thoughts flowing so I started typing lol THANK YOU for letting us all see whom you were and read about whom you are now. Have a great Sunday and wonderful upcoming week. : ) p.s. Quoting Janet Jackson - In complete darkness we are the same, it is only our knowledge and wisdom that separates us, don't let your eyes deceive you. I'm glad you took the time to write all this today.... I like to get to know my readers too. I'm glad I got to hear your story.
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Teenage angst... we all had it I'm sure... Yes, your ears are a bit big but you have lovely shaped eyes and colour. My best friend at school had acne and was name called and it got her down.. I was overweight... her acne went.. might weight didn't! You just have to make the best of what you've got and sod everyone else 
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You were not and still are NOT ugly! You have lovely hair, absolutely gorgeous eyes and your ears seem to fit you perfectly now. As Massass pointed out, sometimes our body parts grow at different rates and don't always fit at all times. When I was growing up my mom seemed to think it was necessary to tell me I looked like a monkey when I was born and for several years afterward. And she didn't mean it in a nice way, either. She thought I was ugly. Hey! Don't ever let me hear you say that again! You are smart and funny and amazing no matter how you feel of think you look. How you look today isn't going to be how you look one year from today. You are JUST as good as everyone else. And, now he's a marine, soon to be leaving me. Now he's confident as well.
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Thank God for the fact that tastes and opinions are all over the place. I tend to crush on the guys who like to talk, who have thoughts and opinions based on educated notions. That was what drew me to the Hippie.... We would talk for hours. I know I wasn't his type, and he certainly wasn't mine, but it never mattered. You grow to see someone in a new perspective.
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You were not and still are NOT ugly! You have lovely hair, absolutely gorgeous eyes and your ears seem to fit you perfectly now. As Massass pointed out, sometimes our body parts grow at different rates and don't always fit at all times. When I was growing up my mom seemed to think it was necessary to tell me I looked like a monkey when I was born and for several years afterward. And she didn't mean it in a nice way, either. She thought I was ugly. Pagan  Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!
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Teenage angst... we all had it I'm sure... Yes, your ears are a bit big but you have lovely shaped eyes and colour. My best friend at school had acne and was name called and it got her down.. I was overweight... her acne went.. might weight didn't! You just have to make the best of what you've got and sod everyone else
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You were adorable. I'm sorry your grandmother didn't tell you that. My mother told me my father left because he couldn't stand my red hair. That I was so ugly he refused to take a picture with me, so there are none. Can you imagine? These adults should realize the havoc they wreak with us. With love from a fellow ugly duckling. What she being honest or telling you that to be hurtful? Though it does not matter what the answer is, it was still wrong to say to a child especially your own daughter! How sad is that, that you have no photos with your father. Be it intentional or not, sometimes parents and others can hurt us in ways they do not know and the scars can be lasting for ever to us to deal with. I hope that your relationship with your mother is better now that you are older and that your father grew up.
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I enjoyed your narrative Secret_lade as I felt the same way for many years as I was not what I would call a 10 in everyone else eyes and my parents did not bring us up with the latest clothing line, top brand name shoes, latest records, video games or the latest greatest tv, radio cable tv or high school spring breaks to Florida. They were conservative, not in style and thus we as kids were not either. I thought for years I was as well a duck. Though I did not care if I dated or not in high school, I look back and think I probably would not have had one if I wanted one with my insecurity of feeling like my looks and lack of new latest greatest clothing would attract no one to me. Later in college I found that my looks were not so bad to others as I aged and I did manage to go on dates and found more confidence in myself. Like you were saying about your appearance changing while getting older as we all do ( though your school photo does not show a duck to me as I think it is a nice photo ) My personality shined though and I had flocks of people wanting to be my friend and women even started approaching me in my 30's. I now have a confidence to know that I may only be average looking to some, a high 8-10 on some other peoples scales but when I engage in conversations with others they see a more mature me, I don't think looks are all they see anymore. As with most everyone, I am sure that your knowledge and wisdom shine though more then you know and that is also a big part of what others will see ... how you carry yourself, how you act, your kindness toward others or lack of, your human empathy or lack of, how you treat others and how you would want others to treat you. I know for myself even though I have not dated in a few years a person I would want to find for a one on one or a long term relationship does not have to be a 10 on the outside but sure has to have a good heart to be with me. Maybe I got off track there rambling but I felt my thoughts flowing so I started typing lol THANK YOU for letting us all see whom you were and read about whom you are now. Have a great Sunday and wonderful upcoming week. : ) p.s. Quoting Janet Jackson - In complete darkness we are the same, it is only our knowledge and wisdom that separates us, don't let your eyes deceive you.
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You look cute as a button in that photo This is me at 5 years old: [image] 
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You were adorable. I'm sorry your grandmother didn't tell you that. My mother told me my father left because he couldn't stand my red hair. That I was so ugly he refused to take a picture with me, so there are none. Can you imagine? These adults should realize the havoc they wreak with us. With love from a fellow ugly duckling. Elevate me...
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You look just Ducky, Lovely
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I see a little girl who is beautiful. The Light is shinning and she is lonely and waiting in the darkness. 
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It looks like you have green eyes, always a great combo with red hair
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2/7/2021 7:12 am |
I'm gonna tell you, if you catch a guy looking at you it isn't because you're ugly or poorly dressed, it's because he is wanting you. One glance at an unattractive woman and our attention moves on. My son had monster size ears as a child, but he grew into them.
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