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Blogs > Pringles0510 > No penny for my thoughts

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Pringles0510 49F
281 posts
11/29/2016 12:22 pm
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The adult dating sites have been incredibly good to me. It's strange though, how it can make you feel so confident and then all of the sudden knock you right down on your arse.

Testimonials I find oh so important. It's that bit of security you get that someone is real and decent. However, it can also knock your confidence in a massive way.

So here's what got me yesterday.....
Someone I'd been meeting up with a few times, kind of started seeing him as my friend with benefits, had a<b> hot date. </font></b>I don't mind at all, I don't expect exclusivity and I'm not a jealous person. However, couldn't help myself having a look on her profile when I saw he'd met her. Just a healthy curiosity nothing more. And then found this:

"Met this gorgeous looking sexy woman last week - and OMG has to be the best meet so far .. words fail me. - I now know why I came back!! Tall sassy blonde, body to die for - definitely a model - and boy was I VERY lucky that night (and the next morning ). I "had" her in every way imagineable, all night and all so very very wet & hot! - Perfect tasting P*s!y, could have licked and caressed it all night long and as for her perfect toned ass, I do not think I have had it that "tight" for a while - beautiful - If Carling invented Women, then K is the blueprint that he followed. See you when I return gorgeous"

Now to say that someone is the best meet ever and the reason you're on the site is quite risky. Odds are people you met before, and had a good time with, will not see you again, because someone's seriously outranked them there - which is what my first thoughts were.
In my opinion testimonials should confirm people are real, attractive, genuine, fun, sexy, etc. It's not about going into details of what you were up to.

Because we are quite close I think - for online dating standards anyway, and made plans to meet again in a few weeks time, I thought I'd let him know that if these young, tight girls are what he's online for he's got no business with me and we'll just forget about the whole thing. Not being angry or nasty and wishing him all the best.

Sleepless night over this one though. Just feeling quite degraded and old. And worried how I must have come across sending him a message about it. Even though it was never a telling off, I figured he'd pick it up that way and think I'm a jealous greedy bitch (which I'm really, really not - I'm very good at sharing).
I know deep down I'm no less than the , but this made me doubt for a while there.

Even though my pride at the moment says "no fucking way", our date's still on. We cleared the air. He even admitted he was thinking with his dick when he put that testimonial on. And that night was no better than the times he was with me (and I'm fully aware that is his dick talking again, but hey ho, that's what we're on here for).

Update - Pride definitely got the upper hand to seeing him grovel. Should've been this way from the start, but just took me a few days to realise. Postponed our date to some time in the new year. But it's all gotten a bit awkward now and a lot of the fun gone for me.

Am I being over dramatic? Don't think so. I definitely won't be made to look lesser than anyone else on here, but that's exactly what he's done.

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proteus_2a 58M
7979 posts
12/2/2016 8:32 am

 I would avoid looking at that profile /testimonial my lady
As you said before, some things are better locked away

Cheers - P


Pringles0510 replies on 12/2/2016 9:04 am:
But I've got to! Can't help myself
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positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
11/30/2016 12:07 pm

 I do not care for testimonials. As in this case, it caused a problem. I do think it is a kind of bragging scenario. " look at me, I bagged the hot chick". Or with women posting them " look at me, all these men are so hot for me". However, testimonials can be a good way to screen potentials. Read and observe is key here.
I do think the things he is saying to you may be true or just his way to get out of it and keep you available to him. You need to have a serious talk about how you feel.
An fwb can be a gray area. What is the obligation there? My std came from a long term fwb, 10yrs. Trusted him to no end. I miss him, but that betrayal of not taking care of us is beyond repair.


Pringles0510 replies on 12/1/2016 12:33 pm:
He knows how I feel and also that he will have some serious sucking up to do next time I see him
Think he's even figured out how a testimonial like that won't do him any favours with pretty much everybody he's met.
It's quite hard when someone you love spending time with isn't there, but there are plenty decent people on here. I have no doubt you'll find someone to spend some quality time with, if you haven't already.
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