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It's All About That Lube!
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It's All About That Lube! I've been on hiatus from writing for a bit as I was off traveling in Bend-Over, Oregon. I posted an ad on craigslist, and I can't wait to tell you all about my adventures. However, right now I've got an ear worm that keeps repeating in my head, "It's all about that bass, 'bout that bass, 'bout that bass." Really, I know it's all about that lube: Which lubricant to use, when, how much and any other lubricious considerations. As a fan of intensity in receiving G-spot massage as well as extended fucking sessions, I am a big fan of lube. I am also 54 years old and one of the facts I hear from most of my female cohorts is that lubrication diminishes as our hormones drop. Now, let me tell you how this topic occurred to me. I attended a Meet & Greet in May, organized under the auspices of kasidie, the swinger site I prefer. The M&G turned into a full-fledged sex party, with the hostess's permission for our "takeover" of her playroom lit by candles on every side. A local, youngish Hispanic couple I'd never met before attended the party. They looked so youthful I don't know how they could possibly have three ! But they claimed to have been together for 20 years. I asked them about tossing off the Catholic guilt thing they grew up with and they said it wasn't too much of a problem to let it go. They'd been "in the lifestyle" for three years. Anyway, as the evening progressed and we in the playroom started getting naked, I realized the woman seemed uncomfortable with fingers in her pussy. I asked if she'd like lube. Since I carry coconut oil (the same solid stuff you buy in jars at Costco, Trader Joe's or the health food store), heat it up in glass and pour it into bottles. Then, you need either heated water or a microwave (gently, gently! I've nuked a lot of plastic bottles into submission!) to heat up the coconut oil for use as a genital lubricant. Coconut oil tastes great if you go back and forth between intercourse and oral sex and it's naturally anti-fungal. Unless someone is allergic to nuts or coconut, I think it's the best thing under the sun. The darling woman did want lube. I poured it on. Then, I explained that she needed to use non-latex condoms with an oil-based lubricant. I put a Reality Female Condom on her next fuck buddy. As I was leaving, I asked if she wanted more. She did. I gave her the green plastic bottle and two more condoms. I feel bad now that I didn't offer a full explanation about how to use them because I think this info would be useful for helping her to enjoy "the lifestyle" more. Of course, she was busy but still... So, here's how and why I use Female Condoms: 1) They are made of polyurethane so both stronger (developed originally for gay male anal sex so they need to be tough!) than latex condoms and transmit body heat better. They are not degraded by use of oils while latex condoms break when used with oil lubricants. 2) I pull the inner ring out of the condom, put coconut oil on the penis and then slide the "large, economy size" condom over the cock and then apply more coconut oil to the outside. 3) The man penetrates the vagina and the condom pretty much stays in place in the woman's vagina so that the penis slides in and out. It creates less annoying friction for my sensitive pussy. 4) The large condom doesn't constrict the head of the penis, making it also more comfortable for the man. Using any larger condom this would be true. Some men claim they can't even feel it! 5) It is VERY important, though, that the man check every once in a while to make sure the condom is still in place. I've had an enthusiastic partner fuck it right off. Once I didn't even notice until I started to have sex with someone else two days later. It was a definite dick downer to watch me pull an old condom out of my yoni! Now, if you kept the inner ring on, it would help the condom stay in place, but I find the sensation of the ring to be annoying. And in 10 years of using the condoms several times a week, it's been fucked off just twice. 6) It is also VERY important that the man hold the top of the condom when exiting because it's looser than other condoms and could spill. The "large, economy size" is a joke because, though large, the condoms are much more expensive than other condoms. They're between $1.25 and $2 EACH and can only be purchased online (or in some sex toy stores). I buy them through amazon though I've found good prices at undercover condoms dot com. Though expensive, I think they're worth it because I can enjoy A LOT of sex without discomfort. There are non-latex male condoms that you can also use with oil. Skyn has one that's pretty good. Okay, a couple other things about lube: * If it's not raining off the ceiling, you're not using too much. * Use it early and often. * If you find it's "not tight enough" for pleasurable friction, the woman needs to do<b> kegels </font></b>rather than quietly suffer dry fucking or fingering. And you need to skilled enough with your fingers and/or go long enough in fucking to create sufficient engorgement of the inside of her vagina to get it hot (and tighter) for both of you. * Silicon lube applied to the dick (or outside of the condom, which, again needs to be non-latex) is great for fucking in a hot tub! Because it isn't absorbed by the body, it stays on for longer. To reapply, the dick needs to come out of the water. * Silicon lube is also best for anal sex, again, because it isn't absorbed by the body. I am not a fan of silicon because it seems like a nasty, chemical thing to apply to my very sensitive membranes on a regular basis. But I have a good friend whose preferred silicon lube is Pjur Eros. She buys it in the huge bottles and uses it liberally. * I'm not big on water-based lubes because they get tacky, but a little water applied loosens them up again. They don't taste good for the most part, though, and if I'm going to ingest a lube, I'd rather it be a food product! So what else should I be sure to share with this lovely young woman (and anyone else) to assure that she can be safe enjoying sex with others? {=}{=}{=} BiPolyBabe69 |
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Nothing more to add, just wanted to say thanks for the female condom info... I've seen you mention them before and am glad to get a more in-depth  usage report!
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That's great info on the different lubes -- and the importance of not mixing oil with latex condoms, but the whole "female condom without the ring" and "check every once in a while to make sure its still in place" sounds super risky to me. What do you do when you check and find out it's not in place? By then it's too late. Female condoms have a higher failure rate than male condoms to begin with (22% typical/5% perfect vs 8%/2% for 1 yr failure rate) [1] and using them improperly increases this. There are polyurethane male condoms available, but the Lifestyles Skyn condom you mentioned is polyisoprene which is NOT compatible with oil-based lubes. It is good for those with latex allergies, not it does not have the heat transfer or oil lube compatibility attributes that polyurethane does. The Trojan Supra and Sagami condoms are polyurethane. The Skyn and Durex Avanti non-latex condoms are polyisprene. [1] Trussell J. Contraceptive Efficacy. In Hatcher R A , Trussell J, Nelson A L, Cates W, Kowal D, Policar M. Contraceptive Technology: Twentieth Revised Edition. New York NY : ArdentMedia, 2011.
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Cool. Don't forget to tell them no oil-based lube with Skyn condoms, too. They're not polyurethane.
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