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Blogs > spudluvr > The Other Side of the Hill

What was your parents sex life like?  

spudluvr 73M
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8/29/2014 3:06 pm
What was your parents sex life like?

I got to thinking the other day as I realized that I had reached the age my mother was at when we finally had a discussion about sex. Not the birds and the bees lecture, but a discussion about her sex life with my father. Not exactly the kind of discussion most of us probably ever have with a parent, and not one I was really prepared to have with my mom, but it came up, and I while it was not very enjoyable at the time, as time has gone by, I’m glad it did.
The instigation of the discussion was finances. My dad was the manager of a test farm for a pharmaceutical company. He ran the farm where they raised the animals used to test the drugs they developed for agricultural uses. His company had a good retirement program and when Dad retired, against the advice of nearly everyone, dad sunk almost his entire retirement portfolio into one pot … that company's stock. He said people were always going to get sick, and they had been a good company to work for, so it would be a good company to invest in. He turned out to be correct, though I wouldn’t recommend his strategy to anyone.
Within a year of his sinking everything into that company's stock, the company released a drug to combat erectile disfunction, and his investment multiplied almost overnight. A barely comfortable retirement, became very comfortable. He and mom were able to travel around the world, visiting places most of us only dream of before their health gave out.
So our conversation about sex began with a discussion about the ED drug, and what it had meant to them financially. Out of the blue, mom admitted that it had made a big difference in other ways as well. She said dad had occasionally had problems with<b> impotence </font></b>as he had grown older, and it had taken a toll on their sex life. He became so afraid of not being able to get an erection that he seldom initiated sex anymore. The ED drug gave him back his confidence, and their sex life returned to normal.
Of course, mom had to explain that they had always enjoyed a robust physical relationship. Dad enjoyed her large breasts, and she was convinced that was what had attracted him when they first met. They mated like rabbits, she claimed, going at it whenever they got an opportunity, frequently more than once a day when they were younger, and gradually slowing down to two or three times a week, until he started to have performance issues. Now they were back to twice a week.
My gawd, I thought, my parents were having sex more often than I did, and I thought I was in a healthy relationship. This was hard to believe about a couple that seldom displayed any public affection, and had never talked about sex with me before this. But I had no reason to not believe it.
Mom then explained that they had been forced to change positions to her on top due to her osteoporosis, as she couldn’t handle his weight on top of her. Whoa! TMI!! TMI!! I tried hard not to show my distaste for the conversation, but I doubt if I was totally successful as our conversation moved on to other topics shortly after that revelation.
I’ve often thought about that conversation in the years since then, usually in a “good for them” kind of way. But as I thought about it this week, I got to thinking. Mom talked about switching to woman on top as if they had only ever tried two positions for sex. Could that be right? Then I got to wondering if they had ever tried oral sex? Or even more adventuresome positions or activities? I know times are different now, but according to Kinsey’s original 1950s and 60’s research, not that different. Oral sex was not mentioned in public or polite company, but behind closed doors, it was pretty common. Mom and Dad were pretty hip for their times, so I have trouble believing that they missed out on this pleasure. They are both gone now, as are most of their contemporaries, so I’ll probably never know. I guess it doesn’t matter, but they raised me to be a curious .
How about you? Ever wondered if your folks enjoyed oral sex? Can you picture your dad with his face in your mother’s muff? (That’s not a picture I even want to try to visualize.)

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