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Let those without sin cast the first stone.
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Let those without sin cast the first stone. I am a contradiction of sorts when it comes to religion and spirituality. My mother was the product of a strict Baptist upbringing. When my sister and I were growing up we were not forced to attend services like she was. Mom discussed religion with us and we were given the option of attending church if we wished but it was not forced upon us. At the age of eleven I went through a "church" phase, attending services with a neighbor down the street. My best friend Christie asked me to come with her and I agreed. I knew the youth minister, he lived on our street as well, so there were quite a few familiar faces in the congregation. Christie's mother was a raging alcoholic, prone to blackouts and drunken benders that lasted for days. The church offered Christie a chance to escape from a miserable home life. It was truly a sanctuary. A few weeks into my "spiritual" awakening, Christie confided in me that one of the ministers had begun to explain "love" to her after services were over. He showed her how a man and woman showed "love" to one another with "special" kisses. I asked what she meant and she described various forms of oral sex acts he had performed on her and she on him. I told my mother immediately. She called Christie's mom and then the police. The Youth minister on our street was the man who had been sexually molesting her. He was arrested and I swore off organized religion.Over the years I have done research into different religions, Christianity, Judaism, Islam and Buddhism, as a way to reconcile my own need for spirituality. I mention this because of a recent issue that has arisen with the mother of my guy and me. His mother, whom I have never even met, has decided that me, my friends and my family, are all going to burn in hell. She came to this conclusion because of posts and pictures on Facebook, forwarded to her by his ex-wife. A picture taken of us showing drinks on the table (a beer and a margarita), a post from a friend of mine who is a Drag Queen and the fact that I openly identify myself as bisexual have all been presented as evidence of my soul's eternal damnation. I found out that all this was being discussed when his ex sent snap shots of their text conversations to me. His ex takes great pleasure in sending me hate filled private messages on Facebook. I usually get one every few days. They are toxic rants about how I am a fat disgusting old hag, a drunk, and I will never be allowed near his or his family. In one sentence she will spew venomous insults about him and in the next she says she will always love him and he will return to her after he is done with me. Every time he picks up his for visitation, I get a fresh batch of expletive filled insults. This last week she was in a car wreck, she was texting while driving and rear-ended a car on I-10 during rush hour traffic. His was in the car, thankfully unhurt, but the ex broke her hand. He called to tell me what happened and to let me know he was going to the hospital to check on his . He told me that he helped the ex get redressed after the X-rays and that he was giving them a ride home. I talked to him when he left her house at 7:30 and we met for dinner before he headed home. Imagine my surprise when her last batch of poison included the claim that he had stayed till midnight, not wanting to leave her. It also included screen shots of the conversation she had had with his mother about me. It was the first time her rant has affected me. His mother is what I call a "Bible thumper". A pious hater who wraps their ignorance and intolerance in words from the bible to justify their judgement of others. Her responses were as hateful and mean as the words of his ex. I usually don't even tell him about the messages I receive but this time it was different. I expect his ex to act that way, she's bat shit crazy, but his mother, I was taken aback. I sent him copies of the rant and screenshots and let him know I was upset. He confronted his mother with the "evidence". She wasn't happy that I found out what had been said and offered an apology. The next day she sent a text with a Bible verse about the impending damnation of him, his brother, and me, to his ex. A screenshot was sent to me from you know who. I try to communicate with ignorant people on their own level so I forwarded to his mother eleven bible verses about judging others she needed to reread. I am not accustomed to dealing with drama. I love my guy but I have made it a practice to not allow this type of hatred and bigotry in my life. I know he is stuck in the middle of a no win situation. I'm not sure what the future holds for us, I will walk away from this situation if this is an indication of what a life with him holds. |
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4/4/2015 5:05 pm |
And this is why I have nothing to do with organized religion. There are more wars and killings in the name of religion than anything else.
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