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Lesson 7--Meeting People Online
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Lesson 7--Meeting People Online Well we are all here so we are all taking on the task of meeting people online and the suggestions I have to offer are only my personal suggestions after being involved in the lifestyle and on line adult sites for over 7 years. These are just a few of the suggestions I have and a few of the issues I have found. Once again these are only my personal suggestions. The first thing I have found is lots and lots of players and picture collectors on these types of sites. These are people who will never come out from behind the computer to actual hook up. This is great if you are only looking for online fun and not really interested in hooking up. So how do you seperate the players from those serious about getting together? Here are a few suggestions. 1. Be leery of someone whose first question is can you send me more pics--generally this person is only after your pics and after you send them they will quit emailing you, especially if they are not a gold member here so they can not see any galleries you may have posted. You never know where your pictures will end up when you send them to someone. I actually have the personal policy of not sending my pics to anyone who I do not know in person and if I do know them in person then they usually know where they can go to see all my pics lol. 2. Does the person always want you to go into a chatroom but always has an excuse why they can not meet? 3. Is the persons profile complete? Usually a person who is serious has a complete profile and not a bunch of unanswered questioned or has a profile introduction with just one line. 4. Does the person say they are near you but have a profile listed from somewhere location listed somewhere else but email you saying they are in town or coming to town? Although some people travel alot many times I have found this to be a dead end and they never end up in town. ASk them to email you once they are in town or if they are suppose to be in town ask them a question about something going on in town or if they have seen something specific that is in your town and see if they know about it. 5. Ask the person to call you or ask for their number so you can call them (generally I provide my number just because its more polite). I find very quickily that someone will not call if you if they are not serious. I seperate the players from those serious by asking them to call me or being able to call them. I can send my number to 20 people and will be lucky if half of those call me. You dont call me then our discussions are over. Also I am talking actually talking to someone not texting them back and forth this is as impersonal as email or chatrooms. Arranging meetings--- 1. My number one thing is that I will never set up a meeting with someone that I have not talked to on the phone and someone who refuses to give me their number. Be sure you have called them on that number to be sure it is indeed their number. I got a call once and arranged the meeting and was getting ready to leave and was running a little late and called back the number and found out it was a business and they had never heard of the person but had someone earlier that day use their phone to make a call. Once again this is talk to not texting. 2. Always meet in a public place for your initial meeting. This provides some safety for you. Many members of My Friends Place will only do their first meetings at the club because first it provides some safety for our single ladies and for others if they dont click with who they are meeting there are many other possibilies for either party to meet someone else they may click with. 3. Avoid meeting at someones house or hotel room--this can put you in a bad situation and may add more pressure for play. For those inviting someone to your house you never know who you are letting know where you live and for those being invited you never know what you are walking into. This is simply a safety thing whether a couple or single person. There are many bad people out there and they all know that these types of sites are a great place to find victims. An example is a couple years ago I had a friend very experienced in the lifestyle go to a hotel room to meet a gentlemen and was brutally<b> . </font></b>4. Use common sense--if you get the feeling something is wrong or get that sixth sense bad feeeling then dont agree to meet the person. 5. If you are running late or can not make a meeting then have the common courtesy to call the other party and let them know as soon as you can. Many people have and have to make babysitting arrangements and it is a total bummer to go through all the trouble and the other party does not show up. You may find especially if you are a single women that you will get tons and tons of emails. Always replay to an email even if you are not interested this is just polite. Gay Threesome Dating actually has quick responses that just take a click of the button to respond back. My pet peeve is emails I get that are just plain rude as an initial email and I am sure you have all gotten them. Things like---sweet pussy I want to lick it or Wanna Fuck or other rude emails although these may not bother some of you it is my pet peeve and they get an automatic NOT INTERESTED sent back to them or if they are really rude they get a report abuse button clicked. Although if this is not a problem to you then that is your decision but most of the folks I know are offended by such rude intital emails. Once again these are just a few suggestions that I have for you to help you through your journey. They are my personal suggestions that you may or may not agree with and if you have other suggestions please post them here so that others may learn from your experiences. One last suggestion I have is look for local swingers clubs or groups that may have created a site for their club membersand are not the large adult sites but more local based sites. Many of these sites more then likely have strict rules that you need to follow to be on their sites and it is not just as simply as registering and you are good to go. I know that for Montana and Wyoming myfriendsplacexxx has a place and also thumpersocials has a place for people who are members of their group. Provding the web addresses would be a violation of the Gay Threesome Dating rules so I am sorry I can not provide those but they can be found or you can contact mskitty59101for more information on My Friends Place or the moderator or one of the active members of Thumpers Socials for more information on Thumpers. Gay Threesome Dating is number one in the adult meeting sites and can provide you with 100's of 1000's of people to find but these other places can be a nice addition to being on Gay Threesome Dating. Overall just use common sense when it comes to meeting people online. There are lots of people on Gay Threesome Dating who are real and looking to meet but there are also lots of people who get off on playing games or want phone sex or cyber sex and really have no interest on actually hooking up in person for some real fun. Remember if you have some other suggestions or thoughts on this please post it below so that it can be helpful to others.  Class is in session.  If you want to start exploring the wonderful world of swinging in the REAL world >>! click on the following link My Friends Place for information on a great place to start your adventure. |
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Thanks for sharing these great tips.
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